Holiday cheer could make them feel worse...but it might also make them feel normal. You can offer to come over and help decorate their place, watch cheesy Hallmark movies together, or show up as their work holiday party plus-one. And if your friend prefers to celebrate in a way that is less shiny and bright this year, support whatever they decide — whether it involves you or not.
Carole Brody Fleet, a writer whose husband died six days before Christmas, knows this firsthand. She didn’t feel like celebrating the holidays, but she did want to honor her loss in a quiet, non-overwhelming way. As a result, she and her family members picked specific activities that felt right to them. “We lit Hanukkah candles and recited prayers, but we did not attend the annual Hanukkah party at synagogue,” she tells BuzzFeed. “We took quiet walks around the neighborhood looking at decorations, but did not attend any holiday gatherings. When New Year’s Eve approached, the general manager of our favorite restaurant invited my daughter, my mother, and myself to enjoy a quiet dinner. These activities were perfect solutions: our holidays were observed, but the gaiety of the season was curtailed.”
Source : https://www.buzzfeed.com/juliadellitt/ways-to-show-up-for-a-friend-holidays213