Your life sucks? Your glass is half empty, actually it’s been drained? Well, Heidi Allen wants to help fill it to the top, have it overflowing with a whole lot of hope and positivity, especially during the holiday season.
Allen leads the Positive People Army (PPA), a growing global movement that started out as a simple blog feeding positivity. It’s now a 16,000-strong online community made up of “a collection of people from all over the world who are imperfect, who struggle sometimes, yet make the choice to stay positive,” says the Canadian author and former TV producer.
“The world is inundated with negative news on a regular basis and people are tired of feeling unsupported, unfulfilled, depressed and lost. The PPA has filled that void by making sure each member is seen, heard and acknowledged… and no one is ever left behind,” says Allen, author of the new book Stories: Finding Your Wings, a collection of her personal inspirational stories.
But this time of year lots of us can feel left behind, and left out of the seasonal merriment. Loneliness, family conflicts and estrangement, and stress mark the holidays for many. People are asking her how to stay positive during the holiday season when life feels like it sucks. “My number one suggestion is to start paying attention to how you are talking to yourself. More specifically, start to monitor what statements follow ‘I am.’ Try to remember, whatever follows ‘I am’ follows you. If you continually say, ‘I am having the worst day’ or ‘I am fed-up and frustrated,’ then in fact you are intending the worst day.”
However, says Allen, if you start to change your words to words of gratitude like, “I am grateful for hot coffee in the morning” or “I am grateful the sun is shining today,” you will start to notice a shift in your daily moods. “This gratitude practice will eventually strengthen your overall positive attitude, which starts rewiring the brain’s neurochemistry and increasing your overall feeling of happiness.”
To further boost positivity, never underestimate the power of kindness. One simple gesture can truly change someone’s life, says Allen, of positivepeoplearmy.com. “Holding the door or even smiling at a stranger on the street, is acknowledgment that I see them and they are not alone. Also going out of my way for someone, helps connect with them on a deeper level. I may not be changing the entire world with these actions, but when done from my heart, I’ve come to realize I can easily change someone’s world entirely.”
Choose positivity every day and make it an ongoing practice, says Allen, adding that just like any skill, you get better at it when you practice it. “Scientists are learning that the power of positive thinking when practiced regularly can actually rewire our brains to overcome negative thinking patterns. When positivity is practiced on a regular basis it can have rewarding and life-changing effects.”
Boost positivity during the holidays with Allen’s ABCs of motivation. “At the end of the day, we are the only ones that can help ourselves.”
* A – Acknowledge Yourself: No matter how low you are feeling, take time each day to acknowledge something you are good at or talented at, i.e., good cook, plays guitar, great organizer. Also, list your accomplishments, promotions or anything else you have been recognized for.
* B – Blessings: Count them every day. Start each day and end every day with at least three things you’re grateful for. Adding a practice of gratitude to your day can increase happiness over time and helps give you a positive perspective on life.
* C – Control: We can’t always control the things that happen in our life, but we can control how we react. Choosing to react with frustration, anger and sadness is a choice. Becoming more aware of these choices, by keeping track of them, will help you make a conscious choice to step back, take a breath and choose another reaction in its place.
‘Tis the season to be anything but jolly! According to the Beating the Holiday Burn survey, seasonal stressors including holiday to dos, family disagreements and indulgent foods has 88% .
Purchasing presents stresses out 39%, deciding how much to spend makes 38% anxious while cooking holiday dinner stresses 30%. Another 15% report festive faceoffs at the dinner table about politics and religion can lead to stressful disagreements. The average couple will get into at least seven arguments, reveals the survey commissioned by Omeprazole ODT, which treats heartburn.
Seasonal squabbles plague couples, including where to spend the holidays (35%), how much money to spend to spend on gifts (31%) and who cleans up (26%).
All the stresses can cause us to overeat – and trigger heartburn. Add to the festive fracas some physical discomfort:
* 85% admit to overeating during the holidays, with 61% feeling physically uncomfortable after eating a holiday meal.
* 42% unbutton their pants after a holiday
* 54% choose to wear loose-fitting clothes to accommodate the large meal
* 39% choose stretchy pants
Source : https://windsorstar.com/life/relationships/tips-for-staying-positive-during-the-holiday-season/wcm/bcde8096-1613-4a5a-9742-8d3a6e506e35